What Are We Really Fighting About?: How to Transform Conflicts into Conversation

Description: What Are We Really Fighting About? by Lisa Brateman What Are We Fighting About? How to Transform Conflicts Into Conversations gives couples who want to break the patterns that sabotage their happiness the ability to find their answers. FORMAT Hardcover CONDITION Brand New Publisher Description What Are We Fighting About? How to Transform Conflicts into Conversations gives couples permission to fight. Because, after all, everyone does. They fight about loaded issues like financial infidelity and different ways of spending money, sexual infidelity, working too much, traveling too much, fighting too much, not being involved in childcare, interfering in-laws, levels of intimacy, routine sex or boring sex, body image, guilt, secrets, vulnerability, hopes, and fears. And the elephant in the room: Why wont he/she /they change? Were so conditioned to think that all fights and arguments are bad, but that isnt true. This book shows couples that fighting can be productive if they learn to fight in a way that isnt hurtful and shift away from entrenched patterns that arent working. Its okay to feel angry with a partner and have a heated argument if couples fight with respect, acceptance, and love—and then reconcile differences and disagreements. What Are We Fighting About? shows couples exactly how to change sides—to understand their partners pain, to acknowledge and appreciate their perspective, and ultimately to create an environment where vulnerability is welcome. Many examples of couples who have successful mastered the art of productive arguments will enable readers to use these techniques in their own relationships. As a result, readers will learn how to fight better by articulating what they need and what is possible, and then find ways to make conflict productive and healthy. Developing the skills to turn conflicts into conversations will open the space for understanding. Author Biography Lisa Brateman, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, relationship specialist, public speaker, and media commentator who has offered individual, couples, group therapy, and coaching in New York City for over twenty years. In addition to her private practice, Lisa is the psychotherapy consultant at the office of New York Sinus and Sleep Medicine. As a member of their Dream Team, which offers a multidisciplinary approach to sleep disorders, she works with clients to reduce anxiety and other psychological barriers to sleep. She has also volunteered at Identity House, providing weekly support groups and individual crisis counseling, and has offered therapy groups on womens issues at the NYC Community Center. For the developmentally disabled community at the New York State Commission on Quality Care, she has participated in hearings and reviewed declarations for informed consent for major medical treatment. At The ARC of Rockland in Congers, New York, she was the Coordinator of Treatment Services for 145 developmentally disabled clients in day treatment/day habilitation programs as well as trainer/supervisor for clinicians in client care; she also designed behavior plans to help clients develop appropriate coping, socialization, and communication skills. She has been an adjunct professor in social work and sociology at Saint Thomas Aquinas College in Sparkill, New York, teaching a course entitled "Social Work in Todays World." Lisa is a member of the Private Practitioners Group, and The Medical Reserve Corps in New York City, as well as a contributing member of SheSource at the Womens Media Center, a progressive, nonpartisan, nonprofit organization working to raise the visibility, viability, and decision-making power of women and girls in media. She is also a regular presence on BBC radio as a guest expert on relationships and sleep issues. The mother of two sons, she lives with her partner in Manhattan. Review Brateman, a psychotherapist, offers recommendations for couples who have become stuck in deeply entrenched patterns. She distinguishes productive fighting from the kind that leads to emotional gridlock. Old grievances like betrayals have to be put to rest. Understanding must be the goal, rather than a fervid commitment to being right or maintaining a sense of superiority. In essence, the needs of the relationship have to come before ones own. Brateman discusses the kind of manipulative behavior that gives rise to petty fights and which includes unremitting criticism, deliberate distortion of meaning, and weaponization of insecurities. Couples are frequently unaware of their own emotional triggers, which may have to be teased out. The author has a few underlying themes: a willingness to renegotiate is the hallmark of a healthy relationship, sexual needs and desires do not always follow a straight path, and boundaries are essential. Brateman interweaves her narrative with real but camouflaged examples from her therapy sessions. Her concise layout and practical advice will likely help many couples.-- "Booklist"What Are We Really Fighting About? offers invaluable advice on how to overcome barriers to intimacy and turn relationship conflicts into connections. Readers will learn to shed their emotional armor and express themselves openly, intentionally, and respectfully. A must read for all couples.--Andre Sólo, co-founder of Sensitive Refuge and co-author of Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much WorldBorn from over twenty years of experience with countless couples, Lisa Bratemans deep wisdom is distilled into this necessary, compassionate, and practical guide. With invaluable insights and real-world examples, What Are We Really Fighting About? offers a clear roadmap for any couple seeking to navigate the complexities of love, sex, money, family, and all the challenges of modern coupled life.--Ellen Hendriksen, PhD, author of How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social AnxietyConflict is an essential and inevitable part of every intimate relationship. Thankfully, there are intrepid healers out there like Lisa Brateman, who are willing to help guide us through the hardest and most painful of those conflicts.--Steven Ing, Managing Love Intelligently Podcast Details ISBN1538182246 Author Lisa Brateman Publisher Rowman & Littlefield Year 2024 ISBN-13 9781538182246 Format Hardcover Place of Publication Lanham, MD Country of Publication United States Audience General AU Release Date 2024-09-02 Imprint Rowman & Littlefield Subtitle How to Transform Conflicts into Conversations Alternative 9781538182253 ISBN-10 1538182246 UK Release Date 2024-09-03 DEWEY 616.891562 Pages 264 Publication Date 2024-09-03 US Release Date 2024-09-03 We've got this At The Nile, if you're looking for it, we've got it. With fast shipping, low prices, friendly service and well over a million items - you're bound to find what you want, at a price you'll love! TheNile_Item_ID:161426491;

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